Something that every parent dreads, as we all want our children to feel safe, happy and to enjoy their years at school.
Most schools do have an anti-bullying policy in place, but the sad reality is that many children will be bullied, in one way or the other, during their time at school.
Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. Girls and boys can be the bully.
Bullies are not typically born with these characteristics. It is usually the result from the treatment they received from their parents and authority figures. Bullies often come from families that use physical forms of discipline.
Girls are more likely social bullies, spreading rumours, breaking up friendships etc.
Boys are usually more physical bullies, hitting, punching, kicking and slapping.
They have an urge to dominate, or be in charge of others. Bullies are usually easily pressured by their peers and feel the need to impress them.
The typical victim:
Physically smaller, more sensitive, unhappy, cautious, quiet and withdrawn, passive or submissive. Possessing these qualities make these individuals vulnerable to being victimized. Bullies know these students will not retaliate, making them an easy target.
Several types of abuse:
Easily identifiable bullying:
– Using Pushing
– Weapons and other objects
Any form of bullying that causes damage to a victim’s psyche and emotional well-being.
– Spreading malicious rumours
– Keeping certain people out of the
– Getting people to “gang up” on
– Making fun of certain people
– Ignoring people on purpose
– Saying hurtful words/sentences (also verbal abuse)
Any slanderous statements or accusations that causes the victim undue emotional distress.
– Being laughed at
– Directing foul language
– Using derogatory terms of playing
with someone’s name
– Commenting negatively on
someone’s looks, clothes, body
Bullying done through technology.
Physical or non-physical. When sexuality or gender is used as a weapon by boys or girls.
Children can be bullied into providing “sexual favours” in exchange for protection as gang culture enters schools.
Relates to sexual orientation.
Part Two Next Week