Is the biological father liable for the costs of a child born out of wedlock?

We have become accustomed to the fairy tale endings we so often see in the movies – boy meets girl, they fall in love, get married, have kids and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, the reality of modern society is not always as romantic with a dramatic increase in the number of single and unmarried parents and children born out of wedlock every year. This raises questions as to whether the biological father of a child born out of wedlock is obliged to contribute to the mother’s pregnancy and birth related costs and pay maintenance for his child even if not married to the mother.

In legal terms, a child born to a mother and father who are not married to each other is referred to as a child born out of wedlock, or, more correctly, as an extra-marital child.

Our law recognises that all children irrespective of the marriage status of the parents are entitled to financial support from both of their biological parents, with the degree of contribution by each parent dependant on their respective means.

Child maintenance is a periodic payment made to the caregiver of a child for basic amenities such as food, shelter, clothing, education and medical care. According to the Maintenance Act 99 of 1998 a maintenance order can be obtained to enforce the common law duty of parents to support their children. An unmarried mother who claims maintenance for her child must however prove paternity. If she can prove that she and the man from whom she claims maintenance had sexual intercourse at any time during which the child could have been conceived, that man is, in the absence of evidence to the contrary, presumed to be the father.

The Maintenance Act regulates all maintenance related claims. This Act provides that if there is no maintenance order in place, a Maintenance Court should make an inquiry into the situation and can, after considering the relevant evidence, order the father of the child to pay the mother a sum of money as well as interest thereon. The amount will reflect what the court believes the mother is entitled to in respect of the relevant expenses incurred by the mother in connection with the birth and maintenance of the child, from the date of birth to the date of the inquiry.

An application for maintenance can be brought at a Maintenance Court located in the area where the person to be maintained resides or where the person in whose care that person is, resides. All Magistrate’s Courts in South Africa serve as Maintenance Courts.
Our courts have also recognised a woman’s right to claim maintenance for herself immediately before, during, and after birth and this right to maintenance is regarded as a part of the “lying-in expenses” which are expenses closely connected with the actual birth. These expenses include –

Doctor’s care before and after the birth,
Hospitalization, and
Certain necessities for the baby.

A maintenance order can thus be made with regards to the birth and the maintenance of the child, but the order will only be granted once the child has been born. Both parents must contribute to the lying-in expenses according to their respective means.

Should you find yourself in an uncertain situation regarding the maintenance of your child born out of wedlock, seek legal advice from an attorney specialising in maintenance matters to assist you.

Mosdel Parma & Cox
ppam@mpc.law.za
044 533 1101•

SPYING EYE

Na ‘n tyd van afwesigheid gaan eet ek weer by Mug and Bean in Mosselbaai en wat ‘n heerlike verrassing begroet my!  Die tafeltjies staan nie meer ongeorganiseerd rond nie. Kelners stamp nie meer aan tafels om te bedien nie.  Alles is beter georden, die diens is puik..

PROE – Gebakte ricotta met donker sjokolade en aarbeisous

Genoeg vir 4-6

Bestandele
500 g ricottakaas
2 eiers, liggies geklop
100 g donkersjokolade (minstens 70% kakao), in stukke gekap
50 g gevlokte amandels, liggies gerooster
gerasperde skil van 1 lemoen
sap van 1 lemoen
15 ml (1 e) strooisuiker
250 g aarbeie
’n hand vol bessies, vir opdiening
’n hand vol kruisement, vir opdiening

Resep
1. Voorverhit die oond tot 160 °C.
2. Voer ’n 17 cm x 8 cm-pannetjie met bakpapier uit.
3.Meng die ricotta, eiers, sjokolade, amandels, lemoenskil, die helfte van die lemoensap en strooisuiker en skep in die broodpan.
4. Bak vir 30 -40 min. tot ’n toetspen wat in die middel ingedruk word skoon uitkom.
5. Laat afkoel.
6. Sny die helfte van die aarbeie in stukkies en sit in ’n bak. Gooi die res van die lemoensap oor en marineer vir 20 min.
7.Verwerk die res van die aarbeie in ’n voedselverwerker tot glad. Hou die sous eenkant.
8. Sit die kaas in skywe voor met die aarbeisous, vars kruisement en bessies.
Source: Rooirose

What Are Your Feet Telling You?

Reflexologist use the feet to get a better insight into the condition of a person’s body. By looking at the physical anatomy of the feet, as well as calluses, marks and colours we can detect specific information regarding a person’s physical and emotional well-being. The feet are like a combination of your own personal history book and roadmap all in one.

We all know about the significance of being a right- or a left-brained person.  The feet are also significant in terms of left and right and follow the body as opposed to the head, so left feet relates to the left side of the body, as well as to the female aspects of ourselves, including relationships with women and our mothers.  Left feet also represent the present and what is going on now in our lives.  Shadow aspects of ourselves (the parts that we keep hidden from others) may also show up more clearly on the left foot.  The right foot, relating to the right side of the body, refers to the male aspects of ourselves as well as interaction with men and our fathers.  The right foot is also about the past and events linked to the past.

Big Feet and Small Feet
People with large feet in proportion to their bodies have the potential to create a big impression in life (can also be a reference to the footprint they leave behind and suggest they are much grounded in life, although they may also be prone to putting their foot into it).

People with proportionally smaller feet, may have a quieter, more reserved approach to life as they tread lightly on their path.  While they may create an impact on the world around them, it will be gentler and perhaps less forceful and dynamic than their larger-footed friends.

Colours of Feet
Every area on the feet is not only connected to specific organs, glands and body parts, but also to our emotions and grieves.  Different colours on different parts of the feet can give us more insight into our state of being. Each area on the foot relates to different areas of our life.  For instance, the heel relates to family, society or work-related issues and the toes to yourself, how you think about yourself and your potential, as where the ball of the feet relates to others we love unconditionally.

Red Areas:  Indicates where we may be angry.
Yellow Areas: Depending on where the yellow patches are, generally indicates that we are fed up with a situation or a person.

White Areas: White feet indicate that you are exhausted and washed out.
Blue Areas: Indicates that you are tired from all the pain and hurt in your life and/or feel bruised by people or situations in your life.

Excessive watery fluids in the body are also a sign of emotions that we are holding onto, so there may be much pain and sadness in being unable to truly see and release where we have become stuck.

Going around in circles does not allow us to make much progress in life, which is why understanding ourselves is so important in order to emotionally and spiritually grow to our full potential.

If you don’t go within, you will go without….

Researched by
Erika Myburgh
THERAPEUTIC REFLEXOLOGIST
Mossel Bay
083 654 9292 •

Kos vir die siel – Vooroordeel


Die dag begin in absolute chaos, soos net ‘n Maandagoggend – na ‘n naweek van gaste op gaste, skottelgoed wat ophoop, ‘n berg wasgoed ens – kan lyk as die huiswerker nie opdaag nie.  Die skoonmaakdienste kom twee uur te laat hier aangejaag met ‘n windverwaaide meisietjie wat lyk of jy haar met ;n veer kan omtik, as plaasvervanger.  My eerste indruk is dat sy lyk asof sy dringend in ‘n hospitaal moet kom vir behandeling, of dat sy dalk pas uit een ontslaan is.   “Sy gaan jou uit die verknorsing kom help” kondig ‘Skoonmaakdiens’ teatraal aan!  My mond val oop!  EK HET HULP NODIG – EK SOEK NIE IEMAND WAT MY HULP NODIG HET NIE!  Waarmee sal sy my kan help!?!

Uiters onwillig en wantrouig, neem ek haar die huis binne.  Sy laat haar oe oor die chaos gly ….staan en mompel iets by haarself en spring aan die werk!  Haar vaardige hande vat raak… sy begin organiseer….skuif hier….druk daar….vang so nou en dan my oog …. se vir my wat moet verander om die werk-vloei in die kombuis te  verbeter…

Twee ure later sit ons elkeen met ‘n koppie tee in ‘n silwerskoon, nuut-geordende huis….. en sy vertel my haar lewensverhaal.

Op 18 is sy oorsee om bejaardes te gaan versorg.  Op pad werk, word sy een oggend getref deur ‘n voortsnellende motor.  Sy word na ‘n paar dae, duidelik te gou, ontslaan uit die hospitaal en le drie dae in ‘n koma in haar “bejaarde pasient” se huis, onder die indruk dat sy net harsingskudding het.

‘n Paar weke later, verloor sy haar balans en val by ‘n stel trappe af.  Sy doen skedelbreuk en breinskade op en le vir weke in die hospitaal sonder dat enige van haar familie weet wat van haar geword het.  Nogtans gaan sy nie le nie en veg sy verbete terug totdat sy weer kan gaan werk – steeds in die vreemde  –  Sy dwaal soms vir dae rond sonder kos of blyplek, op soek na werk.  Na nog ‘n paar maande van bejaardes versorg besluit sy uiteindelik om terug te kom na haar land en haar eie bejaarde ouers te kom versorg.

SY VERSTOM MY MET HAAR GELOOF:  Ons het net kos en klere en blyplek nodig, en God sal dit voorsien, soos hy dit nog altyd aan haar voorsien het………

SY VERSTOM MY MET HAAR WERKYWER:  dit lyk asof sy net nooit moeg word nie.  Haar oe sak net dieper weg in hulle kaste terwyl sy heen en weer skarrel soos ‘n mier ……

SY VERSTOM MY MET HAAR INSIG EN LOGIKA:  terwyl sy alles om haar organiseer en orden met ‘n spesifieke doel………

SY VERSTOM MY MET HAAR SAGTHEID:  Haar motto is om lyding te verlig en vreugde in ander se lewens te bring, oral waar sy nood raaksien want ons het almal ‘n keuse om ‘n Barmhartige Samaritaan te wees wanneer die geleentheid hom voordoen ……..

SY VERSTOM MY MET HAAR GEWILLIGHEID:  as sy vra of sy maar more weer kan kom want sy is nog nie tevrede dat alles is soos wat sy dit wil he nie….

Ja, sy het wel breinskade opgedoen, dit het ek dadelik geweet uit my ondervinding van jare  se werk met verstandelik ingeperkte persone.  Ja sy tree anders op as ander mense.  Ja sy redeneer soms vreemd.  MAAR  ek leer so baie by haar….  sy begeester my met haar werkywer…  sy laat my die klein dingetjies in die lewe raaksien en waardeer omdat sy met so min tevrede is ….. sy maak my skaam omdat ek so maklik tou opgooi want vir haar is niks te veel gevra nie……..SY VERRYK MY LEWE ONEINDIG BAIE!!!!

DON’T JUDGE THE BOOK BY IT’S COVER ……….

Pets and Trends

Nowadays there are a great number of people wanting to own a pet. With the stress that nine to five brings, there are a great number of people who are now joining the bandwagon of owning pets. They not only treat pets as if they are spoiled animals but rather pets are treated like they are part of the family. Owners, especially those who are overly committed to the fact that they own animals as pets would see to it that pets would get the utmost attention from the owners themselves plus the regular visit with the vet.

Today, or world is actually suffering from massive destruction. With the destruction of nature with man’s need to globally evolve and explore new boundaries; man have consciously and unconsciously destroyed trees, oceans just for monetary gain. With the destruction of these vital parts of the world’s ecosystem; animals all over the world have been deprived of their natural habitat. With this problem in hand, there could come a time that the only surviving animals would have to be the human race.

For these reasons there are now a great number of people being aware of the need to take good care of animals. There are those environmentalist organizations that not only provide help for the preservation of animals but they also service future generations of a chance to see them decades from now. These environmentalist are just like the people owning pets. They not only give time, effort and money but they offer themselves in order to protect the animals.

Nowadays, the expansion of people’s love to pets have brought awareness that as humans, people should be able to not just consume and dominate the world but also to take care of it. As a caretaker of the living organisms and to prove that we are truly rationale beings capable of thinking and making responsible decisions, it is a good exercise actually to start taking care of a pet.

Owning a pet don’t have an age limit attached to it. From the young to the young at heart, everyone is welcome to be a pet owner. It doesn’t really matter what kind of pet you are to take care of, as long as you are to find yourself in a position where you could actually foster care for the animal, then you are a good pet owner. For this reason, pet owners even stepped beyond responsible and started loving their animals as if they are part of the family.

Clothes for dogs are becoming popular nowadays as dog shows have showcased their bravado for attention of not just their pet owners but also of others. Businesses providing clothing for dogs have made their work accessible for each pet owner. Virtually in every pet store you could get anything you want. From clothing to the coats for dogs, just name it and they have it. Since fishes are also getting popular nowadays, fish tank heaters are becoming the popular requests of pet owners along side the fish tank lights.

Pets could be a source of joy for anyone. They say that by taking care of a pet, it gives you back the love you give. This is true since even medicine could prove that older patients with pets have a longer life than those with none. So it is really important to love animals for what they are and take care of their welfare.

WE ARE BACK ONLINE!

Firstly we would like to apologize for not uploading the previous two editions of the Mossview.

We have recently moved into our new offices in Mossel Bay and had our hands a bit full, but now we are fully operational again.

Be sure not to miss your copy of the Mossview which gets published Bi-Weekly.

If you don’t pick up a copy, you can always read the latest news & events for Mosselbay & surrounding areas on our website!

 

 

van die Redaksie – 25 Oktober

Na ‘n baie spesiale en goed beplande verjaardag-naweek moes ek stil word in bewondering.
Wanneer gaan ek leer, om my kind te vertrou en haar vermoeëns nie te onderskat nie ?
Weereens besef ek hoe kinders ons lewensuitkyk kan verander of bepaal en ons lewens verryk…sien dit tog net raak !

As ons preek, raas of vermaan en die kinders rol net hul oë na die dak  en  kyk geirriteerd rond, is ons geneig om te glo hulle hoor ons nie.  Maar, soos ‘n seun eendag vir sy pa gesê het:  “Pa, al rol ons ons oë na die dak en kyk geirriteerd rond, ons ore is oop…ons hoor” .

Kinders en diere vra eintlik so min, hulle wil net liefgehê, raakgesien en erken word.  Ons is tog so geneig om kinders te onderskat,  “…jy is ‘n kind, wat weet jy?”  Kom ons gee hulle ‘n kans, vertrou hulle en gee krediet wanneer dit verdien word.

Dit gesê – die matriek- en ander eksamens is op hande en tyd vir rekenskap gee, is hier.

Social Media to Popularize Garden Route

The Mossel Bay Travel Festival in the Southern Cape hopes to put the Garden Route town on the international map, mainly through social media.

The event, which is affiliated to the New York Travel Festival, gives tourism operators the opportunity to make the public aware of what they have to offer – in real life and on the social web.

The theme is “Learning, Seeing and Doing”.

It includes presentations, exhibitions and trips to various tourist destinations in the region.

“It is all about talking to one another. We are talking to people all over the world now. There were a lot of tweets on Friday. At one stage Mossel Bay was trending and people were sharing that information. The travel festivals are designed to do that but also to continue sharing that information beyond the day on which we actually exhibit,” says Mossel Bay Tourism’s Martin Hatchuel.

Organiser of the New York Travel Festival, Roni Weiss says his visit to South Africa and especially the Garden Route, has drastically changed his perception of the country.

“In America we sometimes have a perception that South Africa is uniformly unsafe. I have had no experiences that have been remotely unsafe. It is like anywhere else in the world. If you are smart and you do not take stupid risks then you can have a fantastic time here.  I will be able to go home and tell Americans that there is no reason to be scared of South Africa as a tourist destination,” says Weiss.

– See more at: http://thegremlin.co.za/mossel-bay-news/wordpress/2013/10/20/social-media-to-popularise-garden-route/#sthash.VOlcCe3I.dpuf •

Cansa Relay for Life

Ons program vir die jaar – ons vyfde jaar in Mosselbaai, met die tema “CELEBRATION” – is soos volg:

Vrydag, 8 November 2013 –  17h30 tot 20:00 – Junior Relay – kinders van 1 tot 13 jaar – Die gaan meer oor die bewusmaking van Kanker by kinders en gesonder lewe

Saterdag 9 November 2013 – 08h30 – 11h00  – Bark For Life – waar ons ook aan ons honde vriende dink wat kanker het, en ook hulle rol in die kanker pasient se lewe erken en vier.

Saterdag 9 November 2013 – 16h00 tot Sondag 10 November – 07:00 – Die Relay For Life, waar spanne van 10 -15 lede deur die nag stap op ‘n aflos basis, terwyl daar heel tyd vermaak aangebied word.

Freddie Faul
Voorsitter; Cansa Relay For Life, Mosselbaai.
0835602457